Ok, so here's one of my pet peeves: when people facebook or twitter about how they don't have time to do anything...how they have too much on their plate...and whine and complain about when everything will get done and slow back down. If you're that busy, get off the dang computer, people!
I'm on the computer a lot doing work stuff for church, so I'm usually multi-tasking by reading stuff on facebook (twitter, not so much). Yes, I'm nosey! But (and this may sound stupid) I feel like it keeps me in the loop of what's going on with everyone. I don't have a workplace or work friends to go to during the week, and all I hear all day is baby talk, baby whining and fussing, etc. So Facebook is sort of my outlet sometimes! I know I complain about things too...but c'mon people. If that's the ONLY thing you are doing, then you need to re-evaluate your life, your agenda, and what's really important to you.
I'm glad that there are people out there who are seemingly "motivated" or seem to have ambition to go back to school, work, raise kids, etc. I applaud them. But please, don't complain about it! You got yourself in that situation, work to get yourself out and don't complain. Not publicly, anyway! Sometimes I'm not sure if it's motivation/ambition but rather something that gives that person a busy life so they can act all high and mighty to everyone else.
Ok, I am really sounding mean. (Lord, help me to not be so judgemental...and keep to my own business!) Must be the hormones and lack of Zoloft I'm not getting any longer! I thought yesterday I was doing ok without my beloved Zoloft...but I have my good days and bad. Good thing I get to go on it again after the baby is born! Thank you Lord!
Pregnancy update...heard baby #2's heartbeat yesterday, so that always makes a great day! I've been having what I thought were really painful round ligament pains, but evidently I'm still too early in this pregnancy to have those. Doc seems to think it's scar tissue from the c-section that is stretching and growing. Eeek!
I was also pleased that I had only gained 2 pounds since my last appointment! I'm trying to stay at or below the 150 mark when I have this baby. (Ok, so I'm embarrassed to say but I'm at 139 now. I have to keep close tabs on myself...and I need to be accountable for myself!) I don't want to be a whopping 174 like I was with Peyton! I was so embarrassed the other night watching home movies w/TJ of me in the hospital. I was HUGE and didn't realize it, I guess. Yeah, I had a huge belly, but I also had a huge butt, huge thighs, big arms...everything! And that is just not healthy. So my plan is to gain weight, but very little if I can help it. I'm so self conscious these days about my body image and weight, and I'm not sure why. But I look at old pics of myself and think, "girl you used to be 115 with a flat belly. What happened?!" Oh Lord help me to get back to that one day!
I'm really scared to start a workout routine since I was not working out before I got pregnant. I know I'm out of shape, so I would have to take it super easy. But I was scared like this with Peyton...I don't want to start working out and put stress on the baby and mess something up. I don't think I could live with myself! So I'm trying to eat better, and I've decided to go mall walking at least 2 times a week. When Spring gets here I plan to go zoo walking 2 times a week, and of course walking around the neighborhood. (Ohh, I can't wait!)
I've also been thinking about having a mommy's day once a week or once every two weeks with some other stay at home mommas...just not sure if anyone would be interested. But it would be fun to get together for lunch, chat about baby/kid stuff, and let the babies play, etc. I don't know, I feel like I need some more friends! I'm going crazy some days in this house with a 1 yr old and a dog. I love Peyton with all my heart, but she is a typical toddler, and they wear you out and stretch you thin very quickly. So if you're reading this, and happen to be interested in mommy/baby play day, let me know! :) I don't even care to have it at my house, or wherever! All I know is I lost some friends when I got married, and then I lost some more when we had Peyton. And who better to understand me than my fellow mommas?
I have to give credit to TJ for helping me so much when he's home. He works overtime sometimes, and suffers from migraines most days. But he still alternates with me getting up with Peyton in the morning, feeding her breakfast, and taking over play time/story time when he gets home at night. I don't know how some ladies raise kids with a husband who isn't willing to do anything with their kids. I know of a couple of mommas that will have to get a sitter for the kids if she has to go somewhere...WHILE the husband is HOME. Hmmm, that's just not acceptable to me! So I am super thankful and blessed to have someone who is not only my friend, but my partner in everything we do. :)
Friday, January 14, 2011
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Tantrums...oh boy.
So I was really pleased and put at ease today by reading this snippet from an article:
"As your toddler starts to develop more and more of a sense of herself as a separate person from you, she’s also learning about independence. This is wonderful and absolutely normal - but it comes along with the development of a temper and moods and a profound wish to do things her way. During this month the word "no" - probably among your baby's three or four words - is likely to become a favorite."
Oh geez, I didn't think temper tantrums and throwing fits didn't come into play until 2. I was way wrong! We try not to pay too much attention to her throwing a fit if something doesn't go her way. I told TJ I feel like it's better than punishing her...after all, I feel like she is exploring how to express herself, and I know she just doesn't know better. Let me just say, one thing I found to work: Sometimes when you pick her up and ask for a kiss she will smack your face and say "NO" (I sometimes want to laugh, but we try REALLY hard not to). So I take her hand and gently say "that's not nice" and I'll kiss her hand. Then all she wants to do is give us kisses! I swear it works like a charm! If only I could keep her from the initial smack...
This morning Peyton was trying to play with her dinosaur toy (it is one they can push or sit on and ride, and it plays songs). She was trying to push it somewhere, and I guess it wasn't going exactly where she wanted it...so she stomped off from it, screaming and shaking her head. This lasted for about 5 minutes, but GOOD GRIEF you would have thought the world was ending.
It's always comforting to read about her development, and know that she's not the only child doing this, or isn't the only one throwing such wild fits and tantrums. I know all kids do, but seriously did NOT think it would be this early. SO BEWARE of this time frame of 13/14 months! It's hilarious and keeps you wondering at the same time what in the world do you do to/for your child when they act like this. TJ took her to Lowe's with him the other night so I could have some "alone" time (I was feeling REALLY sick). He said she was holding a small tool he was going to buy, and gently took it from her and said "Ok, we have to check out now" and she screamed bloody murder. He said he firmly told her "No ma'am!" and didn't give it back to her. Seemed to work! But I'm dreading this part...that was her first screaming fit out in public. Lovely.
In other news around here...mine and TJ's 5 year anniversary will be here in May! I'm excited, but he's wanting to go out of town for a couple days (maybe to Gatlinburg) without Peyton. I'm a little nervous about the thought of this, so we'll see what we actually end up doing. Maybe a couple days away together would be really great, since we'll have a new one in July...I have a feeling when the new baby gets here we'll be wishing we went away somewhere.
So when I'm pregnant I have really weird dreams. Last night wasn't too off the wall, but I did dream that JCPS extended their summer until September just b/c I wanted my mom to help me out with the baby and Peyton for a little longer. HA! Wouldn't that be nice?! Now that Fonda is back at work, both my sisters are full time at work, my sis in law has 2 little ones of her own, and my mom has to go back August something (I think it's the 2nd week). So I'm a little nervous that I won't get much help. TJ will obviously be off work as much as he can, but it really all just depends on his schedule. I'm sure he'll be in his new job then, so I'm not at all sure what we'll do. I'm just praying my recovery time with this c-section is ALOT quicker than my first. I just CAN'T be down for more than a week or two...and it seems like it took me about 3 weeks to really start feeling better as far as moving, walking, lifting, etc.
By the way...I mentioned last time we were going to start weaning Peyton off of having a cup of milk at nap time and bed time...it's going rather poorly. So I'm trying to hang in there and not give it to her, but seriously...it's the only thing that gets her to sleep! AHH! I'm hoping in the next couple of months we can break the pattern.
"As your toddler starts to develop more and more of a sense of herself as a separate person from you, she’s also learning about independence. This is wonderful and absolutely normal - but it comes along with the development of a temper and moods and a profound wish to do things her way. During this month the word "no" - probably among your baby's three or four words - is likely to become a favorite."
Oh geez, I didn't think temper tantrums and throwing fits didn't come into play until 2. I was way wrong! We try not to pay too much attention to her throwing a fit if something doesn't go her way. I told TJ I feel like it's better than punishing her...after all, I feel like she is exploring how to express herself, and I know she just doesn't know better. Let me just say, one thing I found to work: Sometimes when you pick her up and ask for a kiss she will smack your face and say "NO" (I sometimes want to laugh, but we try REALLY hard not to). So I take her hand and gently say "that's not nice" and I'll kiss her hand. Then all she wants to do is give us kisses! I swear it works like a charm! If only I could keep her from the initial smack...
This morning Peyton was trying to play with her dinosaur toy (it is one they can push or sit on and ride, and it plays songs). She was trying to push it somewhere, and I guess it wasn't going exactly where she wanted it...so she stomped off from it, screaming and shaking her head. This lasted for about 5 minutes, but GOOD GRIEF you would have thought the world was ending.
It's always comforting to read about her development, and know that she's not the only child doing this, or isn't the only one throwing such wild fits and tantrums. I know all kids do, but seriously did NOT think it would be this early. SO BEWARE of this time frame of 13/14 months! It's hilarious and keeps you wondering at the same time what in the world do you do to/for your child when they act like this. TJ took her to Lowe's with him the other night so I could have some "alone" time (I was feeling REALLY sick). He said she was holding a small tool he was going to buy, and gently took it from her and said "Ok, we have to check out now" and she screamed bloody murder. He said he firmly told her "No ma'am!" and didn't give it back to her. Seemed to work! But I'm dreading this part...that was her first screaming fit out in public. Lovely.
In other news around here...mine and TJ's 5 year anniversary will be here in May! I'm excited, but he's wanting to go out of town for a couple days (maybe to Gatlinburg) without Peyton. I'm a little nervous about the thought of this, so we'll see what we actually end up doing. Maybe a couple days away together would be really great, since we'll have a new one in July...I have a feeling when the new baby gets here we'll be wishing we went away somewhere.
So when I'm pregnant I have really weird dreams. Last night wasn't too off the wall, but I did dream that JCPS extended their summer until September just b/c I wanted my mom to help me out with the baby and Peyton for a little longer. HA! Wouldn't that be nice?! Now that Fonda is back at work, both my sisters are full time at work, my sis in law has 2 little ones of her own, and my mom has to go back August something (I think it's the 2nd week). So I'm a little nervous that I won't get much help. TJ will obviously be off work as much as he can, but it really all just depends on his schedule. I'm sure he'll be in his new job then, so I'm not at all sure what we'll do. I'm just praying my recovery time with this c-section is ALOT quicker than my first. I just CAN'T be down for more than a week or two...and it seems like it took me about 3 weeks to really start feeling better as far as moving, walking, lifting, etc.
By the way...I mentioned last time we were going to start weaning Peyton off of having a cup of milk at nap time and bed time...it's going rather poorly. So I'm trying to hang in there and not give it to her, but seriously...it's the only thing that gets her to sleep! AHH! I'm hoping in the next couple of months we can break the pattern.
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